Anger and Stress Management

by Mitchell Dale Lajoie
(Whitecourt, Alberta, AB)

Well I don't know how to deal with my anger and stress, I try to, but I can't do it. When I get mad over stupid reasons like my mom telling me stuff, and then that's when I start acting up also with other things as well!


Editor's note: Hi Mitchell, You didn't say how old you are, but if you are very young and your mom is telling you something you don't like, you might do well to consider the possibility whether what she's telling you is for your own good. I know that can be hard at times, and parents can seem very annoying, but majority of times they do have their children's best interest at heart.. only they may not be able to express it very well every time.

While there are plenty of stress and anger tips on this site which you can look over in your own time, the one that works many times is delaying your reaction - instead of reacting immediately at what upsets you, try breaking away from it for a while, and give it some time like a day or two, to figure out how you really feel about it.

Additionally, I think if you are getting way too annoyed with your mom, instead of acting up with other unrelated stuff, try talking to her about how you feel in a calm manner. Alternatively, you may consider talking to someone else you trust about it, like a sibling or dad, for instance.

I hope these ideas help, and thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts here.

Anger Towards Stepsiblings

by Shana
(Chicago)

I always wanna yell at my stepsiblings, they're always making me so angry. When I yell my step (father) :P gets angry, but when I keep in my anger I start shaking and getting hot and exploding! How do I fix this?!?!?!?!


Editor's note: I think many people feel that way about stepsiblings. One way to get started in addressing this issue is to try to figure out why you feel that way about them. Is it your anger at your mother, or your current family situation that you are misdirecting at them? Or is it that your stepsiblings do particular things specifically to annoy you?

If it is the former, you need to understand that whatever your current family situation, it's not your stepsiblings fault, and they are probably feeling just as awkward or finding it just as difficult as you are - and getting along with them is clearly the best possible way forward for all of you. If it is the latter, then you need to try to talk to them about how you feel - or to your mom (or stepdad) if your siblings aren't inclined to hear you out - instead of yelling at them. Either way, yelling isn't going to solve anything, most likely it will only exacerbate the current situation.

Hope this gets you thinking a bit. Below are a few additional tips. Thanks, Shana, for sharing your thoughts here.

Few Ways to Control Anger

Tips to Express Anger Effectively