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Anger, as is usually said, is a secondary emotion. Which is the reason why anger management classes and other anger management help usually attempt to identify the primary emotion behind anger, in an effort to find a resolution to the anger issue at hand. In other words, the cause of anger can almost always be drilled down to another emotional trigger - like frustration, disappointment, bitterness, jealousy, resentment or insecurity, to name a few. These triggers usually arise because of ONE reason: Expectations not met. It can be expectations you set for yourself, those you set for others, or even expectations others set for you that you feel should be met.
For instance, if you perceive an insult in someone's words, you may find their behavior is not in line with your expectation of being respected by the next person. And chances are, that makes you angry. A lot of times people that are insecure with themselves tend to tie everything others say or do to their self esteem, and perceive a disrespect in harmless statements or actions of others, thereby easily getting upset or reacting angrily at them. "Cause of Anger? Anger always comes from frustrated expectations." -Elliott Larson What is your most irksome pet peeve? What causes you to lose your cool? What are the effects of anger? 
Anger is a form of stress experienced by you, so theoretically, any loss of temper you experience has the potential to affect your body just the same way as stress affects your body. And if you choose to outwardly express your fury directly on every person or circumstance that acts as an external trigger, you may be labeled a social misfit, or worse, have legal ramifications tailing you, depending on your actions. "Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it." -Seneca So how do most people react to their temper? They direct it at someone else or situation, which they perceive as a more socially acceptable outlet. Annoyed at the practical joke played by a friend? Yell at the kids for playing loudly in the garden. While this may work better than suppressing your temper, which results in increased stress within your body, there are better ways to control anger. "Holding on to your temper is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." -Buddha This website covers several ideas to address the root cause of anger, and also ideas that focus on directing your anger more appropriately and positively.
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Upset with the boss? Turn down the subordinate's leave request. Irritated at the not so polite customer? Carry that irritation home, and get sarcastic with the spouse who didn't fix the dinner just right. 