Verbal Abuse With My Family

My wonderful wife of seven years let me know today that she was not happy and wants a divorce. I have had anger issues for a long time and I know it.. I don't hit or hurt anyone. When I get angry I yell and scream at my wife & kids. That's how I was raised, and I know that's not right. I want to do what is best for my family, and I didn't realize what I was doing to my family. But now I understand how my actions hurt other people. I NEED HELP.. I don't want to lose the best things in my life. PLEASE HELP ME SAVE MY MARRIAGE..

Editor's note:

I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through right now. The prospect of losing a life partner is not an easy one to face. The first thing you want to do is to see if you can work through your emotional turmoil to the point where you can think calmly about this. I know it's not easy, but in crisis situations, it's important to be able to think.

Now, do you think your wife has made up her mind, or was it more like an angry reaction on the spur of a moment? Either way, since you admit to anger issues, it's a good idea to apologize to her and let her know that you have realized your folly, and that you will do everything in your power to prevent such angry outbursts from happening again in the future. See if it would help the situation if you tell her that you are willing to get help to remedy your anger issues. There is some anger related material on this site, but you may want to consider getting professional help, either from a personal anger coach or anger classes online.

Additionally, there is also plenty of information on this site - in the form of articles, solutions and live relationship coaches - intended to help people resolve marriage and relationship issues. Just click the Save Marriage link or find it on the navigation frame to your left.

I hope you find something on this site that can help you in the time of your crisis, and alternatively, if your wife is willing, you may also consider using the services of a personal marriage counselor to help your marriage get back on track. Thank you so much for taking the time to write here, and I pray that you and your wife are able to work through this difficult period, to the success of your marriage. -Shan

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