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Anger is a strong emotion, expressing displeasure, towards someone or something. But it can be worse. Research suggests that prolonged anger and depression can be two sides of the same coin - which explains the increasing demand for anger management classes these days.
Anger is similar to stress in that, being angry is also a natural REACTION to an external or internal stimulus. In fact, being angry is one of the manifestations of stress; so several of the stress management tips can actually become your anger management tips.
And additionally, anger can also cause further stress.
difference between the two, however, is while stress is more of just a
reaction to stimulus, the definition of anger involves expression as
well; which makes handling anger issues all the more necessary and
Well, roughly, three, depending on whom it is directed at. It can be:
You messed up something, as you perceive it. Like say when you are late for an important appointment, because you couldn't get up on time.
Others messed up something that concerns you, as you perceive it. Like say when are late for an important appointment, because the contractor working on your house took longer than expected to get done with his job.
Things got messed up, by circumstances beyond your control. Like say when you are late for an important appointment, because of an unexpected traffic jam due to an accident on the road.
All three types could directly bring about any stress that you may experience within you, and could potentially result in misdirected frustration. But the second type, also has the additional possibility of a more specifically directed temper associated with it.
As in the case of stress, our anger is caused by the same hormones released into our system, in preparation to fight a perceived threat. In that sense, being angry is a good defense tactic, and if necessary, a good offense tactic, designed by nature to protect us.
But since we don't and can't hit out at everyone and everything that cause these hormones to be released in us, we often misdirect our annoyance at someone or something else instead.
fact, a lot of such expression is misdirected; we are angry at someone
or something, but the heat is taken by someone else or something else.
that we have a better understanding of what is anger - what kind of
reasons prompt the release of these "anger hormones" into our system?
Most often, it can be boiled down to just one cause of anger.
Anger management is about coping with our anger. It is about calming the reaction within.
It is also about controlling the external expression of it.
A bad temper is not just about the stress you feel within, but also about external expression of it; so it is much more important to learn to control anger.
the stress caused by your anger has direct effect on you, but only
indirectly affects others, your angry response has the potential to more
directly affect your environment and other people.
In other words, the stress involved in
being angry can hurt you slowly from inside; but an inappropriate external
expression of your annoyances or frustrations can cause social and/or
legal ramifications that may be more immediate in nature, and have a
potential to hurt you a lot more. In extreme cases, such reactions can even be termed as a disorder.
Which is why it is all the more important to learn and practice anger management skills. One way that has been proven effective is listening to calming self hypnosis audios that can help you gain more understanding, without judgment, on what anger is and how to control anger.
You can also read our articles and resources below for a better understanding of anger and its management.